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3 Tips that will help control your child's behavior 세상사는 이...

2011/01/15 10:46
http://blog.moneta.co.kr/winkrwin/5113060/241027

요즘 아이와의 커뮤니케이션 스킬에 관심이 많아서.. 거금(??) 들이고 얻은 내용입니다 ^^;;

<요점> 3 Tips that will help control your child's behavior

1. your child mirrors your mood(스트레스, 화, 불안 등 부모의 모든 감정을 조절할수 있어야 한다)

2. You are the adult(아이에게 누가 아이의 보호자이며 주도자인지 명확한 인식이 필요하다.)

3. your child needs and wants structure(규율과 기준을 정해주고 아이가 그 안에서 성장토록 하자)

<상세해설>

1. 감정조절 - TIP #1 your child mirrors your mood

Your child or children pick up on your mood. So, when you’re stressed, angry, or frustrated, they are more likely to be that way, too. It's not something the child does on purpose, it's a natural reaction. Think about when your husband or wife is in a bad mood. If you are around them for any time, pretty soon you are in a bad mood, too. It works the same way with your children. They receive their cues from you! As difficult as it may be sometimes, it is important, if you want to alleviate the tension and chaos from your household, to project a calm and positive manner to your child

2. 당신이 엄마, 아빠입니다 - TIP #2 You are the adult

Sounds silly, but time after time, I have seen a mother or father treat child as if they had the mind of an adult. Children, even teenagers, do not have the development of their brain to comprehend completely the consequences of their actions. Children are self-absorbed. They are only thinking of their world, their immediate needs. When a parent gives their child too many choices, or tells them to do something and expects them to 'fill in the missing places' of the action required of them, the child is going to be frustrated, fall, act out, or disappoint you. Not on purpose, but because they don't have the knowledge, experience or development to be able to acceptably complete the task correctly or to your satisfaction. This, of course, stresses you out and you probably take it out on your child. But, think about what happened. Did you explain to your child every step he or she needed to do in order to successfully complete what you wanted? Or did you assume they would inherently know what to do?

3. 규율과 규칙을 정한다 - TIP #3 your child needs and wants structure

Young children to teenagers feel more secure and comfortable with structure and routine. They need to know what to expect and when to expect it. It is reassuring to them. When a child is an environment where activities, schedules, rules routines are constantly changing, the child will constantly be in a state of tension and, possibly, anxiety. Your child will behave in the ways you wish him or her to, when your child has developed a routine of acceptable behavior because you have created that structure and routine. What this means is that, as hectic and busy as the family schedule may be, you must make an effort to make a structured schedule and stick to it, at least 70% of the time. Dinner at a set time, homework to be completed before fun with the electronic games Maybe cell phones in a basket until chores are done. If you have been running your family environment chaotic, the change to routine and structure needs to be implemented, not all at once, but gradually. First, Family dinner at a set time, then bed time, and so on

참고로 아래 사이트는 무료인데도 내용이 아주 유용해요..

http://vimeo.com/15942473

http://www.bumo2.com/gongbu/habit_list.asp

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